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 Last night, Bob and I were unhappy with one another.  Not a fight, per se, but one of those evenings where we were both getting on each other's nerves - likely due to the busyness of the house and the reno and him being an extrovert and me being an introvert. He said, at one point, "fine.. whatever..  say what you want and apologize later.. it means nothing" And I was livid. I don't apologize later because I think I've done something wrong, I apologize because I love him and I want things to be peaceful.  But using it against me?  Acting like he's the victim?  That is so something I would have encountered as a child and I stopped fighting with him, assured him he could count on not having an apology from me ever again, and went to bed. This morning, I'm still mad.  He's cranky - couldn't sleep and was up watching movies at 3 a.m. (so loudly I had to go in and ask him to turn it down) instead of apologizing and making it right.  He's tired and ...

the season

 It's been almost a month - no sessions through christmas and a commitment, I suppose, to "get through the holidays".  We picked up a 7 week old foster puppy on the 6th of December, hosted Bob's brother for Christmas, the kids came down, and we began a kitchen renovation.  It's been a lot - with the normal every day of missed PSW visits, family drama, and work stress. Over Christmas, I had a very important conversation that changed how I felt about a situation.  Some background:  just over a year ago, I sent my brother a funny meme, his gf saw it and cussed me out, I basically told my brother to control his woman, and we don't talk now.  It didn't really make sense to me, quite frankly, for a few reasons: My brother and I have very dark humour and the meme didn't even begin to be as offensive as usual Usually, you're not allowed to cuss out your significant other's family.   My brother didn't always allow some little control freak to wear h...